“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him; and that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them, but address them in terms of honour.” (Aayah No. 23, Surah Al-Isra’, Chapter No. 17, Holy Qur’an).
There is a high regard given to the way we have to deal with our parents. We need to remember the time when they stayed up for us all night when we were sick, the difficulties they had to go through to help us achieve our dreams, the pain a mother had to endure while giving birth to us, the sleepless nights they’ve had just to help us nurture and grow. We absolutely cannot compensate that, but what we can do is, show them respect, gratitude and appreciation. Even if our views contradict and we actually disagree with what they have to say, even if what they do for us does not seem significant. It is incumbent upon us to be there for our parents when they reach an old age.
If they are being stubborn at an older age, remind yourself of the time when you were adamant to having your ways, if they are complaining to you about their health, remind yourself that it was your mother who was up because of your wailing and moaning all night long, if they need some money then remind yourself of the time when they had to go out and work hard, just so you can be a successful person one day. What we are today, is because of the vitality and support that was shown to us by our Parents. Even if they never fulfilled your lawful desire and even if they disagreed with you.
This is the best time to earn the mercy of Allah SWT, by being the best to our parents. If your parents are alive and healthy, praise Allah because some of the orphans, never got a chance to laugh with their parents, have never been scolded out of love by their parents, never got the privilege to be hugged and kissed by the warmth of a mother’s love and the care as well as support of a strong father. Earn the pleasure of Allah by respecting your parents, make the path to Jannah easy by earning the sincerest dua’s of your parents.
They have the right to deserve nothing but the best from us. Go to them and hug them. Ask them to forgive you for the times you disappointed them or made them cry, for the times when you talked back and you didn’t realize, for the times when you lamented to your friends about them, for the times when you left them alone to give your friends more time. Be there for them, spend some time with them, cherish the childhood memories, take them out for lunch and kiss their hands. It was the same hands that lifted you up when you opened your eyes for the first time, the same hands that wiped your tears, the same hands that picked you up when you stumbled upon in life, the same hands that helped you groom and be the wonderful person that you are today!
May Allah grant us the opportunity to earn the dua’s of our parents and have mercy upon them as they brought us up when we were small.